Friday, August 14, 2009

Tolerance & Gossip

As I get older (and mind you I am not that old), I come to reflect on life a little more!
(Doesn’t it sound like I am 100 years old?)
I come to think of what values I should teach my children for them to be prepared for life, and for when they leave the nest.
My mother pride herself to make sure that my brother and I would be Tolerant, Patient and Diplomat with others. That no matter what happen to us, we will learn from our past experience (bad or good) and make sure that our future will be better because of what we have learned from those.
She made sure that no matter if we agreed or disagreed with other people at school, in a family setting, in a social setting we will always respect and treat everyone equally. Just because they are Human being.
So I from all the teaching and values that my mother gave me, I concocted my own result. And it is that I always try to find what is the best that I can take from any situation and try to teach my own kids of what I learn from that situation. Of what I think is important to keep from my learning. We always end up having discussion that some people might not have with their kids. But I believe that they need to be prepare, and that they need to understand that there is consequences for every actions that one take.
When a situation arise, I always do research, I love finding Quotes from the “Wise one” of our planet and discuss them with Matt or with my kids. I love to see what they will understand from a sentence, from someone. I believe that we can all learn from others. From book or even from just talking to people about their experience and what their opinions. Because no matter what, I believe I don’t know ANYTHING at all. I know some. But not all. Every person is different and is rich because of that difference. No matter that they don’t act the same way as you do. No matter they don’t believe the same as you do. No matter they don’t go to the same church or social group that you belong to.
If you are open minded you will one day, become the wise one!
Here are a few of my favorite quotes, in no particular orders. I leave the thinking to my readers and hopefully it might touch you and make you think, and then you will become a better person: Knowledge is POWER!
“What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t witness with your mouth” Jewish Proverb
“The Easiest way to keep a secret, is without help.” Unknown
“Whoever Gossip to you, WILL gossip about you.” Spanish Proverb
I personnaly love what Buddha teach us, so here are a few:
“All wrong doing arises because of mind. If mind are transformed can wrong doing remain?”
“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, UNLESS it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”
My mother use to say a quote that stayed with me still now. It is a Chinese Proverb and I believe in it with all my being.
“Treat your friend as a person who may someday become your enemy, and your enemy as a person who may become your friend.”
To me it taught me to treat people with Respect no matter if I have affinities with them at the moment or not. To not judge people because they are different from me, or because they don’t believe the same things that I believe in. Who am I to judge other, just because they are different? Even the bible tells us to respect our neighbor like you will respect yourself.
“Thou shall not bear false witness against thy neighbor”
If we are to try to follow the wise men. Then shouldn’t we just be tolerant about others. No matter what they did in their life, shouldn’t they be entitle to live as they choose and to think what they want. And who are we to make comment or judgment about other.
I believe that the only person you are entitle to judge is yourself! Do you believe that you are entitle and deserving of more love and attention than other people around you.
Another one of my favorite quotes:
“The tongue like a sharp knife… KILL without drawing blood!” Buddha
So what I hope my kids learn from this situation is that if you are respectful, tolerant and not judgmental toward others. Because if they are not, they will NEVER be a better person.

Last but not least: “Great and Miraculous things happen when people come together with an intention to create hope and opportunity” Oprah

My question to you is: Can't we just get along?


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1 comment:

Nelly said...

We should all get along and I don't actually get the whole drama thing that is going on. I guess some people are just better than others even though they have the same red blood, have to eat, drink and get diharia like every human being. I don't know... I just hope they stop.