Tolerance & Gossip

As I get older (and mind you I am not that old), I come to reflect on life a little more!
(Doesn’t it sound like I am 100 years old?)
I come to think of what values I should teach my children for them to be prepared for life, and for when they leave the nest.
My mother pride herself to make sure that my brother and I would be Tolerant, Patient and Diplomat with others. That no matter what happen to us, we will learn from our past experience (bad or good) and make sure that our future will be better because of what we have learned from those.
She made sure that no matter if we agreed or disagreed with other people at school, in a family setting, in a social setting we will always respect and treat everyone equally. Just because they are Human being.
So I from all the teaching and values that my mother gave me, I concocted my own result. And it is that I always try to find what is the best that I can take from any situation and try to teach my own kids of what I learn from that situation. Of what I think is important to keep from my learning. We always end up having discussion that some people might not have with their kids. But I believe that they need to be prepare, and that they need to understand that there is consequences for every actions that one take.
When a situation arise, I always do research, I love finding Quotes from the “Wise one” of our planet and discuss them with Matt or with my kids. I love to see what they will understand from a sentence, from someone. I believe that we can all learn from others. From book or even from just talking to people about their experience and what their opinions. Because no matter what, I believe I don’t know ANYTHING at all. I know some. But not all. Every person is different and is rich because of that difference. No matter that they don’t act the same way as you do. No matter they don’t believe the same as you do. No matter they don’t go to the same church or social group that you belong to.
If you are open minded you will one day, become the wise one!
Here are a few of my favorite quotes, in no particular orders. I leave the thinking to my readers and hopefully it might touch you and make you think, and then you will become a better person: Knowledge is POWER!
“What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t witness with your mouth” Jewish Proverb
“The Easiest way to keep a secret, is without help.” Unknown
“Whoever Gossip to you, WILL gossip about you.” Spanish Proverb
I personnaly love what Buddha teach us, so here are a few:
“All wrong doing arises because of mind. If mind are transformed can wrong doing remain?”
“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, UNLESS it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”
My mother use to say a quote that stayed with me still now. It is a Chinese Proverb and I believe in it with all my being.
“Treat your friend as a person who may someday become your enemy, and your enemy as a person who may become your friend.”
To me it taught me to treat people with Respect no matter if I have affinities with them at the moment or not. To not judge people because they are different from me, or because they don’t believe the same things that I believe in. Who am I to judge other, just because they are different? Even the bible tells us to respect our neighbor like you will respect yourself.
“Thou shall not bear false witness against thy neighbor”
If we are to try to follow the wise men. Then shouldn’t we just be tolerant about others. No matter what they did in their life, shouldn’t they be entitle to live as they choose and to think what they want. And who are we to make comment or judgment about other.
I believe that the only person you are entitle to judge is yourself! Do you believe that you are entitle and deserving of more love and attention than other people around you.
Another one of my favorite quotes:
“The tongue like a sharp knife… KILL without drawing blood!” Buddha
So what I hope my kids learn from this situation is that if you are respectful, tolerant and not judgmental toward others. Because if they are not, they will NEVER be a better person.

Last but not least: “Great and Miraculous things happen when people come together with an intention to create hope and opportunity” Oprah

My question to you is: Can't we just get along?

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Meditation over "Dick"

Yesterday I had an interesting conversation with my husband!
He was telling me that he was becoming more and more sensitive to "negativity" surrounding him and was asking me my opinion about the matter!
Needless to say that I asked: what triggered the subject?
He has a buddy (I will leave him anonymous, and for this blog only I will call him "Dick"... Reason will probably make sense by the end of this entry) ;-)

that he spend a lot of time since after all, he is station outside of our State, it isn't like he can spend lots of time with us! Anyway, "Dick" is very "special", and tends to say what is on his mind and what bother him. Most of the time he will verbalized his unhappiness and not his happiness, so that tend to be hard on Matt because he only hears about "bad" experience, and is witness to some "argument" with that guys "love one" more often than him showing his good side to those "love one".
Matt was in the same car as "Dick", when "Dick" started yelling at his "girlfriend" in apparently some unkind way (F... this and F... that!) you know what I mean right? Matt was trying to ignore him as most of the time, and tune himself out. He missed his turn to go to the Gym, turned around and when he arrive at his destination, got out of the car, while "Dick" was still yelling at his ... better half!
As he left the parking to get inside the building, he felt sick, nauseated and dizzy.
Matt was feeling fine before he picked up "Dick" and was looking forward his daily Gym routine, so he didn't understood why he was feeling so sick!
So he started thinking of what might have triggered this unpleasant feeling. And his thoughts took him to "Dick" (still yelling in the car), He then called me and asked me the question if I thought it was possible to get sick just by being around "negativity". I do believe this is possible; after all, I had that kind of experience myself with some of my dad's family after the death of my grandfather.
And most of the Panic Attack that people suffer from are mostly due to Stress, and Stress is mostly related to Negativity. So we talked and he asked about what he could do to get this feeling out of him. I said that maybe he could use some meditation or relaxation methods. A nice bath in a dim lighted place, or a trip to the sauna. I wish I could have been around to give him some Reiki because it also helps him most of the time. Anyway, I just talked to Matt who told me that he downloaded some meditation music and that he did to get his peace back.

He asked me if he should tell his buddy that he is so negatif and that he should try to find a better place in his life and maybe try to think of a way to be happier! I don't think that will make a difference!

What do you think and I was wondering if you guys have any thoughts on the subject.

Do you believe that Negativity can affect you?

What do you do in the case it does?